The question posed in Cristi Grosaru’s book title echoes in my mind. It’s the kind of question that doesn’t leave you in peace, that nestles deep in your thoughts and forces you to stand face to face with yourself. It’s a mirror you hold in your hands, and the reflection isn’t always comfortable. But perhaps that’s where the beauty—and the challenge—lies: in the courage to look at yourself with honesty and criticism, but also with a dose of empathy.

When I first started thinking seriously about this question, I felt a knot in my stomach. «Would you love someone like you?» It sounds simple, but it’s not. How often do we let ourselves get swept up in the waves of life, forgetting to stop and analyze ourselves? To see ourselves from the outside, with the same objectivity we have towards others but rarely towards ourselves. It’s easy to criticize, to notice others’ flaws, but when it comes to ourselves… how would you answer this question?

Cristi Grosaru’s book is undoubtedly a catalyst for introspection. It’s that question that opens your eyes, like a window that lets light into a dark room. Do we love ourselves enough to ask this of someone else? Do we accept our flaws, our mistakes, our days when we’re not the best version of ourselves?

I realized that often, we seek in others the validation we aren’t able to give ourselves. And somehow, I believe that’s the core theme of the book: self-love is not a luxury but a fundamental condition for building any other form of love. It’s like trying to build a house on a fragile foundation, hoping someone from the outside will support it, instead of strengthening your own base.

I was surprised to discover how much this question resonates. Because it’s not just about romantic relationships but also about the relationship we have with ourselves every day. Do we treat ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we would offer to a dear friend? Or do we constantly criticize ourselves, dissecting every mistake under a microscope, expecting perfection that never comes?

Grosaru writes simply, but each word carries weight. I feel that, in many moments, his book gently tugs at your sleeve and says, «Stop! Look in the mirror and ask yourself: are you the person you would love?» And as the question takes shape, you realize that the answer doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t even have to be immediate. But it’s important to start asking yourself that question.

The metaphors and imagery in Grosaru’s writing make you feel as if you’re walking through a maze of thoughts, where each corner hides a new reflection. Vulnerability becomes a fragile flower you carefully protect, while your fears are walls you learn to tear down brick by brick. As I read, I felt like a traveler on an uncertain path, but one full of promise. The author’s words were like a compass on this inner journey, guiding me through questions, anxieties, and revelations.

And what do you discover in the end? That loving yourself doesn’t mean being perfect. It means being at peace with your imperfections, accepting your weaknesses, and giving yourself the grace to grow. Self-love isn’t a destination, but a process, a continuous work of refinement. It’s like an artist’s sculpture: day by day, you carve, mold, improve, but you never reach a final form. And that’s okay.

This book is not just about love, but about self-discovery, about asking yourself questions that can shake you, but that are meant to open new perspectives. «Would you love someone like you?» – a question that, if you let it seep into your soul, can change the way you see and relate to yourself.

So, my answer? I haven’t entirely found it yet, but I’m on the road. And maybe, in the end, that’s the key: it’s not important to find the final answer, but to keep asking the right questions.